A family for the boys

I felt like I saw a family coming together last night. A family here in town had expressed interest in my boys (even before we knew we wouldn't be the boys forever family), last night this family came to meet the boys. I have never witnessed such amazing peace in myself at seeing the boys with this family...as if this was all working out the way it was meant to be. We thought we would be the forever family for these boys but it looks like God was really asking us to be the final stepping stone in them finding their family. I am SO happy for J & J and this family!!!

The boys will be going to this family in the evenings for the rest of the week to get to know them and moving there on Friday evening. We will miss J & J terribly but my whole family really seems at peace with our decision about this.

Now to find our forever kid(s)...

A sad diagnosis...

Big J was taken for a mental health evaluation today by his worker. Since he and his brother will be leaving our home soon the worker wasn't in a very talkative mood afterwards but did "mention" that the therapist believes that he has attachment disorder...no really???!!! This poor kid has been shuffled back and forth between so many homes in the past 2.5 yrs that there is no way he doesn't have issues!

We knew Big J had some problems when we chose to take him and little J in as pre-adoptive placements but we felt that if the visits stopped (supposedly at the first court date) that at that point we could get him (and us) some intensive help to deal with his issues and help him on his way to healing :-( The system SUCKS! This little boy (and his brother) will be yet more victims of the system, what a sad day!

A Hard Decision

Well last week we had to make one of the hardest decisions. J & J's case has taken a turn from the pre-adoptive status to more of a foster care case. The worker insists that she thinks that they will still be available for adoption eventually but that is not what we are looking for :-( Unfortunately Big J's behaviors will only get worse with the continuation of visits and it will be months (possibly years) before he could start healing and bonding with us. We want to find one or possibly two more kiddos to adopt that we can bond with right away and they with us. So last week we were forced to make the decision to have J & J moved to another home in hopes that then we will find our forever kid(s). We asked the worker about splitting the boys as little J is currently available for adoption with out all the drama but we were told that the court (and worker) want to keep the boys as one case so they will have to move together. There is a family here in town that have shown interest to me about the boys but the worker is avoiding my calls at this time so I haven't been able to pass on the other foster parent's information.

We do love these boys and wish them and their new family all the best!