Thursday, November 10, 2011

The good, the bad and the ugly

The good...

We will be starting transition visits soon.

The bad...

The team now wants to do a 30 day transition plan.

The ugly...

The fostermom has filed a grievance with the agency.  She also might be obtaining an attorney to fight having the kids moved.


We knew this was a possibility :(  All we know is that SRS denied her for adoption.  We don't know the reason but it was serious enough to not let her adopt these kids who have been with her for 18 months.  She has the right to disagree with their decision and fight it.  But the unknown sucks for us.

The team has made it clear that we are the family they have chosen for the kids and that we will move forward towards the goal of them moving to us unless/until they are told by the court to stop the move.

Our worker has been told to start transition visits. the question remains of how we will do those visits.  Fostermom may or may not cooperate, we are 3 hours (one way) away, the weather is going to start getting bad for traveling, once a week visits and a long transition won't be best for these kids, we are scared to death to get attached etc., etc.  Our worker said she was going to talk with a children's therapist and the team to discuss what options we have.

I WANTED THIS TO BE EASY!!!  I know our plan isn't always God's plan...

Today I am thankful for three little sweeties that have no idea that we already love them and can't wait to hug them tight.  I ordered their Christmas jammies today...although I had to guess on sizes...I can't wait to see them wearing them!

2 comments:

Deb Hamilton said...

Can I ask where you found out about these kids or where you look to adopt? If you want you can email me. Just thinking about adoption again...:+)

My email
gosdecda@hotmail.com

Acceptance with Joy said...

I just found your blog and wanted to wish you blessings on your new venture with the three kiddos. We adopted twins this year... they were in foster care. It has been a journey for sure.