Sunday, May 30, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 25 was...
I did a little shopping by myself before having to pick the girls up in the early afternoon.
My act of self-kindness for Day 26 was...
Today I let myself enjoy a GREAT first day of summer! I really want to focus on slowing down and enjoying this summer with my girls, they grow up so fast! Today we had a lazy morning and then after lunch we ventured out to look around at a junk store before heading to the park. While at the park Kenzie was sweet enough to keep an eye on Lexy while I took Brooke for a little driving practice (we didn't do much but I can tell she's getting better everytime she drives). Before heading home we stopped off at McD's for an ice cream cone. Then we had a nice evening all together at home - these are getting fewer as Brooke gets older and more social :(
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 22 was...
I (with the help of Mike and Lexy) picked out some beautiful flowers to be planted in the flower garden in front of our house.
My act of self-kindness for Day 23 was...
I watched as Mike planted all those pretty flowers! He's such a great husband!
My act of self-kindness for Day 24 was...
Mike, Brooke and I went to watch Lexy's Kindergarten Field Day and then ate lunch at the park with her!
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 20 was...
Lexy and I went out for dinner (to McDonalds) since Brooke was at World's of Fun with her class and Mike had to work late. Nothing at home sounded good and I really didn't want to make dinner for just the two of us so we went out!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 19 was...
Watching as Brooke and three of her friends just acted like teenage girls. Fourteen is such a weird/wonderful age...they are mature but not mature, serious but silly, grown up but still a child. They stunted (cheerleading), they ate a TON of spaghetti for dinner, they giggled, they talked, they did makeovers, they even played with the doll that Brooke begged for a few years ago (that looks and feels real). It's so amazing to watch these girls become young ladies but not TOO fast!
We got some more information on the kids. There are a few things in the information that would probably make some families run screaming but after 8 1/2 years of fostering I think we have seen and dealt with just about everything! Will these kids need counseling/therapy - yes, but from experience I think they have a chance of being normal wonderful kids if they are placed into the right loving family now. There will be some hard work involved and it won't be all roses and rainbows but these kids are worth it! We let our worker know that we are still interested in being considered for them (I think she thought we would back out) but also that we are aware that there are several families interested and that we would like to continue to receive any profiles of kiddos that she thinks might be a possible match for us.
We had to fill out a Cultural Assessment for these kids because they are of a different race than us. I will admit that I'm a little miffed that we are being asked "why we want to consider adopting a child of another culture". We wrote "We believe we can love and care for a child of any culture". A child is a child to us...culture, race, heritage doesn't really play a part in it to us. We have parented children of pretty much every culture in the past nine years and have never felt that it made a difference, we loved and cared for all of the children the same.
So now we wait to see if we are one of the three families chosen to be included in the Best Interest Staffing (BIS) where they will thoroughly look at each family to find the best possible match for these children :-)
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
My act of self-kindness for day 18 was...
I made myself (and the family) banana nut bread with chocolate chips just because it sounded good. It smelled SO yummy baking and tasted SO good!
I heard from the adoption worker that she has sent our information to the worker for the sibling set. She did say that there are several families interested so we'll just have to wait and see if we're chosen as one of the top three. Hopefully we'll be getting a little more information about the kids before then!
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 17 was...
I treated myself to a years subscription to the photo site (www.picnik.com) that I love. It makes it so much easier to share photos on my blog. And since I have all but abandoned scrapbooking I need to do a good job of scrapbooking/journaling our life on here!
Monday, May 17, 2010
We had fun driving around with "Honk to say Happy Birthday to Brooke & Kenzie" on the back window of the car. We wore ourselves out shopping at The Legends. We had Stone Cold Creamery for dinner and pizza as a late snack. We watched "Backup Plan" for our movie.
What a great girls weekend! I love to spend time with Brooke and watch her enjoy an entire weekend dedicated to her!
Before heading up for our girls birthday weekend, Brooke got her presents from Lexy (a handmade card and cutout cat to remind Brooke of Precious and a pack of gum) and Mike and I (the oh-so-wonderful cell phone that she has been dreaming of. :-) And on Sunday we headed up to Golden Corral to celebrate Brooke's Birthday with Grammy & Papa and Mammaw & Grandpa Tom.
My act of self-kindness for Day 16 was...
I treated myself (actually Mike treated me) to a peanut butter cup blast from Sonic for an evening snack. Yummy!
I also spent some time just thinking/dreaming about how things will be when we adopt again. I looked around on the Internet and found some bunk beds I like and the quilts that I want to get :-) It was so weird to only have Lexy (Brooke was at a friends) on Sat., we are so used to having a house full of kids...we miss it!
Saturday, May 15, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 14 was...
I took a little extra time in bed before getting up for the day because Lexy came in (the dog woke her up) to our room. We cuddled for awhile before making our mad dash morning rush getting ready for school!
My act of self-kindness for Day 15 was...
Today I treated myself to a crazy and loud day at Zonkers watching Lexy have the time of her life riding the rides and climbing in the tubes. :-)
No e-mail back from the adoption worker about the kids yet :( They've been on my mind :)
Friday, May 14, 2010
Holy Cow we would have a full and LOUD house!! It's exciting to think about the possibilities... ha a little scary too :-)
Journey of Peace
My act of self-kindness for Day 13 was...
Truthfully the only thing I really did for myself yesterday was color my hair...I guess that's a big thing since I don't want to look like an old lady lol!
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 11 was...
I treated myself to a morning nap and afternoon bubble bath :) Both helped with my headache and my spirits!
Got an e-mail from the adoption worker that she still has two homestudies in front of ours to do. She said she hopes to get ours done this Friday but we'll see :( She also mentioned that she would be sending profiles for us to look at but that right now there are no sibling groups in our age range...what happened to the ones she talked about a month ago when she was here??? ARGH so frustrating!
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 10 was...
I bought myself a new pair of capri pants and I also took an afternoon nap (still trying to catch up on sleep from the weekend!).
Today I'm feeling very blah. I woke up with a terrible headache and just feel down. I'm going to have to really think about some acts of self-kindness for myself today to lift my spirits!
Monday, May 10, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 9 was...
After spending all day Sat. walking around shopping, going to the late movie and getting up early...I was exhausted so I took a little afternoon nap before heading up for dinner with the family!
Sunday, May 9, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 7 was...
Getting my toes "did" by my oldest. I asked if she would and w/o any moaning or groaning, she picked a color (purple) and painted them and even put sparkles on the top :-)
My act of self-kindness for Day 8 was...
A wonderful birthday weekend getaway for Brooke, Kenzie, Robin and I. We had a great time shopping, swimming at the hotel and watching a late movie together!
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Friday, May 7, 2010
Thursday, May 6, 2010
My act of self-kindness for day 5 was...
Mike and I sat out on the porch after dark last night and talked. I love those quiet moments with my husband. I'm thankful that after almost 20 years together that we still want to spend time together :-)
STILL no adoption homestudy news :(
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 4 was...
After picking the girls up from school I treated all of us to a drink from Sonic and a fun afternoon at the park! Afterwards we came home to a yummy dinner almost ready thanks to the crockpot!
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
My act of self-kindness for Day 3 was...
Lexy has been asking me to go to the basement and find all of Brooke's old Junie B. Jones books. Yesterday I took the time to find those books and then read an entire book to Lexy. We had so much fun giggling at Junie B's goofyness!!
In other news...
There is none :( Still waiting to hear from the adoption worker on our homestudy update. Last week she said "early next week"...hmmm wonder what she constitutes as "early". I'm just SO ready to move forward and start looking at profiles!! On the way to school this morning Lexy asked if you could play on a teetor totter by yourself. When I told her no that I think it would be much more fun with someone else she said "I hope I get a little sister soon then".
Monday, May 3, 2010
For Day 2 my act of self-kindness was...
I let myself be quiet when my oldest was struggling with nervousness about going to a meeting. Quiet is hard for me when it comes to my kids, I want to take their nervousness away or help them in some way. But I chose to keep quiet and let her work it out in her head. I even drove away from the meeting place and then turned around and went back when she asked me to. Eventually she did make it into the meeting and she and I were both proud that she had conquered her fears. I was proud of myself for stepping back and allowing her to grow up just a little bit more!
Saturday, May 1, 2010
I am SO blessed but between marriage, motherhood and especially the stress of the adoption process sometimes I can forget that to be truly at peace I must take care of myself . Some days that means I need to just remember and acknowledge what has spontaneously brought me joy that day, other days that means that I need to mentally focus on doing something nice for myself :-)
For the next 31 days I will:
Commit one act of self-kindness that brings me peace/joy.
Write about that self-kindness.
Not allow anyone or any situation to rob me of my peace.
One of my goals for 2010 is to work on being a more loving, kind, patient, happy and peaceful wife, mother, and friend, I think this fits right in!
For Day 1 my act of self-kindness is...
I (and the family) went garage sale hopping. As a child this activity brought me great displeasure (not sure why?) but now I enjoy it very much. I love finding new-to-us treasures for my family. I even found a couple of things that I was looking for to make a new craft :-)